Future fathers can (indeed: should) ask the midwife personal questions even before giving birth: the more you know, the more prepared you are.
Also remember, dear mothers, to explain to your birth partner (he or she you would like with you during labor and delivery) as many details as possible of how, if possible, you would like your labor and delivery (e.g. epidurals yes or no? massages yes or no?), This not only gives you time to reflect, inform and possibly ask for help from the medical staff for advice or clarification, but also to agree on what you would like to avoid misunderstandings and unnecessary anxieties or worries at the time of labor and delivery actual.
Dear future fathers and birth partners, there are many things you can do (especially if requested by the mother):
- keep her company in the early stages of labor;
- hold her hand and stroke her;
- massage her back and shoulders;
- help her change position;
- comfort and encourage her (perhaps reminding her how good she is and how proud you are of her!);
- accompany her in relaxation techniques, breathing with her;
- support her choices and act as a spokesperson for her (for example with respect to whether or not to request an epidural);
- wipe them in sweat or refresh their forehead and lips.
…in short, be vigilant and careful to anticipate what she might need or like.
The baby was born
In some countries, fathers can cut the umbilical cord (don't worry, it doesn't hurt the child), a very symbolic gesture: the symbiosis of mother and child is severed, now the father is also part of it. Many men say that closeness during the early hours is an important building block for building a good relationship with the baby, the so-called bonding. To facilitate this, whenever possible, place your baby on your chest in direct contact with your skin, hugging him.
Don't be afraid to hold your newborn child in your arms.
Perhaps you are afraid of hurting him, because he seems very small and fragile, but holding him to your chest and showing him to your mother will be a unique emotion.
Don't be afraid to show your emotions.