Most men have to approach new things slowly. In the true sense of the word.
They try to feel their baby in their belly, are proud and are shocked when they feel it kick. At the same time, however, the thought of childbirth worries them. Do not belittle men's fears! Facing the great event of birth together creates a new intimacy. And then that the man is afraid for his woman and wonders how to help her during childbirth is a declaration of love.
Here are now a few tips on how best to prepare for and experience childbirth from a father's point of view:
- decide together, as parents-to-be, what is best for you by explaining to each other your needs and emotions (e.g. would you prefer the father-to-be to be in the delivery room or not? And you dads, would you like to be present or not?);
- attend antenatal classes together, or at least attend the classes that are usually also planned for you dads. You will feel a little better prepared about what happens during labour and natural childbirth and gather some ideas on how you can help your partner;
- accompany the mother-to-be to checkups and ask the midwife to clarify any doubts you may have;
- be aware that things may turn out differently than you imagined: labour and delivery may be shorter or longer than you expected or an emergency caesarean may be necessary;
- talk about your emotions, doubts and thoughts, seeking an active dialogue with the mother-to-be... maybe you are both in the same 'boat of emotions';
talk to other dads, it is always useful to have strategies and advice in your 'toolbox' to face the adventure of pregnancy, labour, birth and life with a baby, at your best.
Whatever happens, remember that you are a team...better prepare in advance on strategies and plans B!!!